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Hello love,

I see you there, behind your screen, trying to carry it all on your own.

Your wounds, your unresolved past and your healing, your relationships, your home, and your business.

You've bought into the story they've been telling us for decades, haven't you?

That you're the bearer of peace and harmony in your home. That being ambitious comes at the high-price of self-sacrifice. That you're only safe and virtuous if you can make it on your own, without asking for help. Without disturbing anyone.

And you're strong, my love. You're so very strong. I know that you could do it all alone. But at what cost?

• The cost of locking down your feminine nature, designed to receive and to create out of abundance, a cup full of energy, inspiration and support.
• The cost of every setback - so common on this path - chipping away at your confidence and self-belief.
• The cost of, after a few years of pushing yourself in every possible way, not having anything else to give, no energy to support others because you haven't been supported as you needed to.

I wish I had seen it sooner.

I wish some of my colleagues and friends had seen it sooner. Before they were so empty that they had to close the door on their dreams, calling themselves delusional for ever believing they could run a successful business.

The delusion is to believe we should do it all alone.

Or that we should wait before we can afford to ask for help. As if we would wait before buying food or electricity. It might sound like an exaggeration, but I’ve come to believe it’s just as essential.

The tree doesn't create oxygen for you out of thin air. It gets the nutrients from the whole life underground and the support of the whole flipping forest.

Don't delay, my love. If you truly cherish your dream, and your mission in this business, don't let your energy slip away from you until you've got nothing else to give.

You get to ask, right now, for the support that you need.

• More help at home from your partner?
• A paid cleaning person?
• More support from a child-carer?
• A healing space with a therapist?
• A circle of women who get you and cheer you on?
• A V.A or another kind of freelancer to take over the tasks that take you so much time, effort, and headache?

Creating more (money, courses, virtue) doesn't come from sacrifice and scarcity. And you don't need to make 6 figures before asking for help.

• Start with a small investment you can make right now. Put a number to it, call someone and see what you can get with your budget.
• For example, with just 200€ you could get 4 therapy sessions per month, or 3 hours per week of help at home cleaning or babysitting, or 5-6 hours of strategic hands-on support in your business.

Try it for a month and see how it feels. What might open up in your life when you’re supported, held, and no longer carrying it all alone?

Power and light,

Jessica